Members’ Involvement

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Roy Payton

“L O N E L I N E S S” !!

The Pandemic before the Pandemic – One of the biggest challenges of our time! 
I believe that loneliness is inside every human being from the moment we are born.  It is as though we have a treasure chest full of emotions – love, fear, anger, sadness, joy and of course loneliness.
As we go through life any one of these emotions can be triggered at any time through circumstances beyond our control.
Loneliness can be experienced because of bereavement and often from cruel actions or words from other people and can become all-consuming and quite overwhelming.
In my own life I have been vulnerable to severe loneliness due to the loss of my Daughter at an early age and my Wife more recently.
With the background I was in a prime position to feel desperate loneliness as soon as it appeared.
I had to work very hard to get myself back on track to deal with this terrible “intruder”.
From the outside nobody would have known the enormity of the loneliness I suffered within from other people’s actions or unkind words.
But there comes a time in all our lives when we have to face our world as it is and not as we would wish it to be.
So, with this second Pandemic threatening to exacerbate our existing loneliness it is important to deal with our lives and each other in a positive and profound way.
Show gratitude to others who care – slow down – respect each other as human beings – chat more – smile more – as Spike Milligan once said in a poem:

If you feel a smile begin
Don’t leave it undetected
Start an epidemic
And get the World infected!

          Roy Payton, September 2020

When you wake in the morning think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive
 to breathe – to think – to enjoy – to love

JUST FRIENDS members from all branches at the Coronation lunch, 7th May 2023

JUST FRIENDS members from all branches at the 5th Anniversay Lunch on St.George’s Day, 23rd April ’23

JUST FRIENDS members from Eastbourne and Newhaven on their Bluebell Railway trip

JUST FRIENDS members from Eastbourne, Bexhill and Newhaven enjoying the Queen’s Platinum Jubilee Celebrations at Bannatynes, Hastings

Some testimonials from our members across the branches.

Wonderful life changes as I was lonely, and brought me out of myself meeting nice people. – Margarita

Just Friends has helped me extend my outlook. It’s made me realise about living alone. I am not the only one!! – Ronnie

I have just joined Just Friends following the loss of my partner. It gives me that life will get better with the friendship of the members. – Peter

On moving to Bexhill from Andorra, it was so nice to join Just Friends and meet such friendly people. Keep up the good work. – Sylvia

No need to be alone when there’s Just Friends. – M

Just Friends is a lovely club for people on their own. Weekly meetings, days out, walking, meals out. Best thing I’ve ever done. It has changed my life. – Audry

Everyone is very friendly. – Sheila

After a recommendation, I joined Just Friends in November 2021 and I would further recommend anybody who enjoys social chats and meals as there are trips and events for everyone. – Laurie

When my husband died I was determined not to “fade away” and I joined Just Friends. I have met some really nice people who have saved me from total boredom. Thank you so much. – Pat

I have been a member of Just Friends for some time. It is friendly and welcoming. I have met several new friends and really enjoy the meetings and activities. – Pam

I am so pleased that I joined Just Friends. As a result I have made some very good friends. Everybody is very friendly and welcoming. It is one of the best things I have done. – Kay

Just Friends has been a “delight” and it is all down to Frederick who started all our clubs. Come and try us. You will be welcomed. – Jeannie

Just Friends gave me a new meaning to my otherwise lonely life. – Ann

Just Friends has given me a new lease of life. – Pam

There is always a warm welcome and everyone is very friendly. – Valerie

Due to being a widower and Covid, my social life had gone down the drain. But since joining Just Friends my social life is now on the up & up and I am so grateful to Just Friends. – Mike

It’s been over a year since I joined “Just Friends”. The welcome I received at Hastings was wonderful and I instantly felt the loneliness lift. Every week there is something to look forward to. “Just Friends” gave me the recipe to start living again, not just existing. My mental health is very much better now, with all the new friends I have. Please “Just try” to attend a social meeting. You really have nothing to lose! – Jayne

Dear Frederick, thank you for inviting me into the ‘Just Friends’ family. I think the group has saved my sanity. – Jenny xx

The arranged outings are very good and give people that attend the club
something to look forward to. – Marion

 One of our Hastings members has been very creative and customised her mobility scooter. What a great idea! Well done Jayne!

Arundel Coach Outing

Just Friends had a lovely day out recently visiting Arundel Castle. Thirty Members went to see the spectacular tulip festival in the beautiful gardens and grounds and ten members also went into the Castle, which is well worth the extra money, to see a fully “working” castle as well as the original 12th Century Keep. You can see some of the photos taken on the day below.

On 23rd April Just Friends held their 6th anniversary lunch at Taylor’s Sports Bar, Eastbourne. A great time was had by all! Here are a few photos from the day, captured beautifully by one of our members. Thank you Nicola!

Our Fundraising and Awareness Officer, Joe, recently completed a charity walk from Eastbourne all the way to Brighton, in order to raise money for Just Friends. Well done Joe! Our Chairman, Frederick, joined Joe for part of the journey, as did a very enthusiastic chilli and a tomato! (otherwise known as Nicola and Wendy!)